“I Hate Psychoanalysing, But I Do it All the Time”

“I hate psychoanalysing, but I do it all the time.” – Mike Carlson

This one, almost throw-away comment from the last week’s NFL coverage by the astute commentator and former player, Mike Carlson, tells us everything about psychology, and psychoanalysing, and it’s place in life. 

For the thing about psychoanalysing, both in sport, and in life, is that whilst it may be tedious and boring, it is so often, and one might even say, almost always… relevant.

In life, as in sport, psychology is relevant to success.

In life, as in sport, psychology is relevant to success.

This may explain why someone who, by his own admission, hates the activity, yet engages in it so frequently – because he can see how relevant and consequential it can be – it is the cause of so many effects. 

Get a glitch in your psychology, and an eagle-eyed Carlson type will see exactly how, and possibly even why, you are sabotaging your own otherwise possible success, be it in some little details, or in the big picture overall.

So from our point of view, if we want to succeed, if we want to be positively influential in our own lives, and in those of others, how well can we use the ever-growing understanding of psychology and psychoanalysis?  Awareness of it’s role, and then awareness and observation of people, and of oneself, is certainly a good place to start.

Carlson is a proper commentator and observer.  In a country (the United Kingdom) where most pundits are able to pass acceptable levels by rolling over base cliches that we are so familiar with that we could play ‘catchphrase bingo’ with them, it’s a breath of fresh air to witness someone actually excel at the task, with a full depth of knowledge and insight of everything that it is his business – and chosen passion and life’s interest - to have.

Herein is also a key.  If you like what you do, or are comfortable that you are taking the path that reflects who you are and what you want to do, the sense of self and personality expressed is much more likely to be genuine.  There’s much less need for ego.

Ego is a frequent offender in the clues-based game of psychoanalysis, and Carlson, from what I can observe, has no option but to point out it’s occurrence on a regular basis, perhaps weary of the trying, negative and false-self nature of the beast.  A person trying to hold on to an egoic identity based sense of self is often going to show the signs of those incongruences.  They’re likely to be anything but at one with themselves, and so, in those circumstances it’s very difficult to be effective and compelling.

And in addition to the Ego, the Shadow also has it’s two-penneth to throw in.  This is the conditioned life hiding the true life, and is perhaps even more of a relevant apsect in this context.

So many things in life are influenced by psychology.  Indeed, it is always present in both the individual and the collective.  Even when we are asleep the psyche is often up to something.  What I’m interested in bringing your attention and questionning mind to here, is how people play the game of life, and, of most interest, why do so many fail, or some fail so often, to get the best outcomes and expressions out of themselves that they are quite readily capable of.  What makes a quarterback have such an unexplainable off-day when it matters most?  …but in our everyday lives, too, why do we say those things, do those things, that we know are right, or not do those things that we know will get us on our way?

As I point out in my Course, though, working on your psychology is not the same as denouncing your natural personality.  Rather, it is the brilliance switch on that very personality.

Best wishes ’til next time.

James Blacker

James Blacker is the Founder of Whole Life Whole World and author of the home study life course Wisdom The Course: The Way of True Success, available from the Whole Life/Papillon Store.

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