Be Proactive

The first principle of a natural and obvious approach to Self-Coaching for Life, even one that is based in peace and wisdom, is that of being Proactive.

Mahatma Gandhi, whilst a spiritual man who understood Grace, was also Proactive.  He had to be in order to achieve what he did.  The Dalai Lama, also, did not write his popular series of books by being passive.  No, it was by being Proactive.

So we can accept that the two notions of Wisdom and Action are totally compatible – and thus we can integrate them both into our intelligence, side by side, where they are naturally meant to be.

Of course, as noted in the section on Freedom, in order to be our Authentic Self, it is important to be proactive with Grace.

Being Proactive means choosing our own life’s path at every step, rather than having our life’s path and circumstances chosen for us.

When we accept that, we realise that our life is and will be what we make it and what we choose for it.  Therefore, the principle of being Proactive is the first key to life and to Life-Coaching yourself, or Self-Coaching, as we might call it.

It’s a principle that takes the victimhood and victim mentality out of life, because we accept responsibility for being the main driving force in our own lives.

This principle is best summed up by George Bernard Shaw, as quoted in Colin Turner’s bestselling book, ‘Born To Succeed’, when Shaw wrote;

“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are.  I don’t believe in circumstances.  The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, they make them.”

So this is the first calling point in taking charge of our lives – being Proactive!

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